“Was it love or arranged?” people often ask. I smile and say, “It was both — and that’s why it worked.”
In a country where marriages are as much about families as they are about feelings, our story sits somewhere in between.
Our first meeting wasn’t romantic. It was a polite coffee conversation arranged by our families. No sparks. No violins. Just two adults talking about careers, hobbies, and what we were looking for in a life partner.
But something about that conversation lingered — a sense of comfort. A feeling that I could be myself. We didn’t talk about love or forever — we talked about life. And somehow, that was more grounding than any dreamy idea of love I’d grown up with
Over the next few weeks, we started texting, calling, and meeting without our families. We weren’t trying to “fall in love.” We were just trying to understand each other.
Love or arranged — they always ask,
But ours was beyond that simple mask.
Not forced by fate, nor just desire,
It bloomed with trust and gentle fire.
Two hearts, two minds, one sacred thread,
Not by chance, but choice we wed.
With parents’ hopes and our own dreams,
We stitched love through quiet seams.
So call it love, or call arranged —
But know our bond was never chained.
It worked because we chose each other,
As partners, soulmates, friends — and lovers.
That’s when it hit me: Love isn’t always a spark. Sometimes it’s a slow, warm flame that grows stronger with time.
We had differences — our music taste, our food preferences, our ways of expressing emotions. But we shared the same values: respect, honesty, and family. And that was enough to build on.
People often view love marriages as emotional and arranged ones as logical. But we discovered that the best marriages are built with both. Love gives the relationship heart. Logic gives it structure.
In arranged setups, people think love comes later. But in truth, love comes whenever you allow it. It’s not about how you met; it’s about how you grow together. Ours wasn’t instant chemistry — it was daily commitment.
Love marriages sometimes start strong but falter when reality hits. Arranged marriages sometimes lack chemistry but can evolve beautifully when nurtured.
We were intentional about building ours — weekly date nights, open conversations about future plans, respectful space during disagreements, and celebrating even small wins.
We didn’t rely on fate. We created our love story, brick by brick.
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